Thank you for the reply. I was introduced to your writing by my brother and I'm glad for you. Your write ups are great for introspection and discussion. Please keep the ink and thoughts flowing. God bless you
Thank you so much for this perspective — I agree. That type of situation definitely falls outside the scope of care.
There’s a difference between entitlement and the idea of “owing” as described in the article. And there’s also a difference between self-seeking and genuine parental guidance.
It’s normal for parents to want their children to have the opportunities they never did and to try to guide them toward what they believe is best. But in the scenario you mentioned, the parent is no longer acting out of care — they’re projecting their own ambitions or fears onto the child, to obtain a particular success they didn't or couldn't meet up to. That becomes self-seeking, which is the opposite of the virtue of parenthood (which is rooted in selflessness).
Children owe their parents respect and honour — not their obsessions or entitlement. These situations can easily cloud judgment, because children don’t have the same depth of experience their parents do, and sometimes parents themselves are acting from wisdom, not from personal desire, especially if that child is moving with questionable companies.
Every family dynamic is different, but one thing remains true: charity begins at home.
Thank you for the reply. I was introduced to your writing by my brother and I'm glad for you. Your write ups are great for introspection and discussion. Please keep the ink and thoughts flowing. God bless you
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I agree with your point on care. We should not see the care of our loved ones as a competition or keep count of favours given/owed.
I think it also important to identify scenarios where family members think they are "owed" and try to cash in a favour.
For instance, a parent wanting to decide their child's career path, so they can living out their unfulfilled dreams through them.
I believe this falls out of the scope of care and is a case where it seems like a favour owed is being cashed.
What do you think? I'd like to hear your thoughts
Thank you so much for this perspective — I agree. That type of situation definitely falls outside the scope of care.
There’s a difference between entitlement and the idea of “owing” as described in the article. And there’s also a difference between self-seeking and genuine parental guidance.
It’s normal for parents to want their children to have the opportunities they never did and to try to guide them toward what they believe is best. But in the scenario you mentioned, the parent is no longer acting out of care — they’re projecting their own ambitions or fears onto the child, to obtain a particular success they didn't or couldn't meet up to. That becomes self-seeking, which is the opposite of the virtue of parenthood (which is rooted in selflessness).
Children owe their parents respect and honour — not their obsessions or entitlement. These situations can easily cloud judgment, because children don’t have the same depth of experience their parents do, and sometimes parents themselves are acting from wisdom, not from personal desire, especially if that child is moving with questionable companies.
Every family dynamic is different, but one thing remains true: charity begins at home.
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